I recently spent two weekends with some of my grandchildren, one was on a train trip to Dallas to see the play Peter Pan and the Dallas Aquarium. The second weekend was much different. We stayed on the farm and part of the time we helped my husband, Jerry, clean up limbs that had fallen from the ice storm. It was a huge job, he spent two days using the chain saw to get the wood ready to move. Once it was all cut the children loaded the limbs on the flat bed trailer, drove it to the pasture and unloaded it. Our oldest grandson Kris, drove the big truck with the trailer on it. He is not yet 13 but driving at this age on the farm is not unusual.
Kailee, the seven year old, was not at all interested in this job and protested loudly "Why do we even have these trees? If we didn't have trees we wouldn't have to pick up sticks!" She picked up sticks with a tiara on the entire time.
Sometimes when we are together we aren't having much fun, but the importance is that we are together. They learned what to save for firewood, what went on the trailer to go to the burn pile and how to stack it properly. We learn that a job may be daunting, but if we all work together we can accomplish almost anything.
When being together, whether it is working or having fun, we create a camaraderie between us. The definition of camaraderie is a mutual trust and friendship among people who spend a lot of time together. I see this happen all the time at our retreats. Some people come with folks they already have a bond with, others just show up and before the end of the third day a bond has been created. They go home feeling a love, a knowing of others. I hope you find a group to sew with, play cards with or just hang out together to create a belonging of your own. Find a group to that inspires you, people to love, whether related or not. This is my wish for you in the new year of 2016. Go make this year count!